I've been well taken care of. since young. since forever.
I was taught what I should know, what's known to be 'the way' things work, and I absorbed them all without much questioning. Or rebellious thoughts.
I was surrounded by the same kinda peers who were brought up pretty much the same way, hence I didn't feel I was any different. Or that, there were so many other possibilities outside my small world that could've been part of my life.
I, in a few words, lived in a very safe and protected world.
All that, until now.
Well. it's not like I'm unsafe or unprotected; it's not that I only saw the other possibilities now. And I've definitely passed the rebel phase. It's more of the choices I get to make, of shaping my personality, my character. What principles I want to hold, what mottos I want to stick to, and what feels most at ease. Crows perched on my shoulders whispering little noises in my ears, and before long my shoulders began to ache... and the noises became dins.
But how do you know who's your true self? Especially when you feel okay in both situations? Too much debate in the head can be a nuisance. Too fickle-minded is cataclysmic.
"Just make up your mind. There's no right or wrong in these questions."
Indeed. All we have to do is just pick. And just be it. or just do it, whichever case it's in.
Lots of kids grow up in a 'greenhouse' environment. And it comes with the greenhouse effect - which led them to have an illusion that there is a near-perfect world out there, and that things will always end up their way, somehow. The lucky ones might be lucky enough to never discover the ugly side of reality; the less-fortunate ones might break down in horror when they do.
Freedom to kids, no matter how young they are, is neccessary. Freedom to choose, even if it's just the clothes they want to wear, or food they want to eat. To a certain extent, these are the little practice to help them make up their mind in the future.
So, today's dinner - what's it gonna be? Italian, Japanese, Mexican, or Chinese?
2 comments:
It is interesting to see what happens to some people who have been too sheltered all their lives. I've encountered a few and it's really kind of sad. In my opinion the only way to figure out who you really are and how to make choices is to be challenged in life.
Life is about making choices. There is a consequense in every choice we make, so it is not about making the right or the wrong choice, it is about having courage to face up to the consequence and rectify it if it is a wrong choice.
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