DaGu's comment led me to think: which one of us are the REAL us? Allow me to explain. She said, "Think of me saying thank you to the stats lecturer not because I'm a hypocrite but because I just wanna be a well-mannered person."
Question is, "Do I really wanna be a well-mannered person?"
I mean, yeah sure, everyone sorta wants to be one, but how sincere is every one of us?? We were taught to be a well-mannered person, behave ourselves, treat others how we want to be treated bla bla bla and all the other 'good' attitudes.... according to the norms of the society. Yeah that's pretty much what the teachers in school taught us, didn't they? And from there, 2 groups of ppl seemed to be born. One, who happened to obey the society rules and are more accepted in the society; and another, who refused to conform to established standards of conduct - the recusants.
Now lets put aside those who are rebellious and concentrate on the former groups. How many of them, are truly behaving well because they truly believe in those conducts? And how many just follow blindly - "because that's what mom & dad want me to be" or "because it's the norm, and I guess that's how thgs should be" or "because tht's the way to get me somewhere in my career"? If you ask me, I dont think most ppl put much thought on it... they just do whatever they're supposed to do, and since it didnt sound that wrong, so they just didnt bother to change anythg or think bout it. (Everyone tends to reject changes - to some extent, dont we all?)
Back to my question. Okay I'm well taught by my parents to behave 'properly'. And 'be nice & polite' all the time, no matter what. But honestly, sometimes I'm sick and tired of being the nice person. Especially when I'm on the right. Why the hell should I just let it be and be nice to ppl when they so dont deserve it ?? (oh im not talking bout the lecturer anymore.. its another whole issue altogether) But the question's still the same though. I'm just wondering, when I do smthg nice but dont really mean it because I'm doin it for the sake of societal conformity... arent I a hypocrite just the same?
It's just a subtler way of being hypocritical - doing smthg consciously while knowing self doesnt mean it at all.
So at this time, do we go ahead and do smthg to be accepted and be highly looked upon because that's how things work and because that's life??? Or, do we stay true to ourselves even though the true self can be ugly sometimes?
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Remember there was a guy from 202 who stood up in class and scolded the moral teacher although she's pregnant?
Wei Soon was playing with Dong Lek's PE pants, throwing it around with someone else. Dong Lek was the victim, trying to get it back. The teacher was pissed and confiscated his pants.
Will you stand up and shoot the teacher who is pregnant? Or will you just sit there and let it go?
Precisely what I'm saying!! What would you do??
our society mold us into someone cowardly, not..dauntless enough to stand up to what's right. till we're used it. cuz its easier to be silent.
but in this case tht u're saying, they shouldnt be playing with the pants in class in the 1st place, dont u think? its disrespectful to the teacher. so what's wrong with the confiscation? unless of cuz, he needed the pants to wear at tht time. but i dont think he's without a pants at tht time rite?!
They were messing with Dong Lek, he couldn't get his pants back from them thus the word "victim" I labeled him.
After the PE lesson(changed back to school uniform), his pants were snatched, and before the moral teacher walked in, it was on their hands. And the teacher was pissed to see that they're throwing it around and hence confiscated it.
The confiscation is wrong because Dong Lek is not gaining any pleasure from it. He was the whole victim.
Regarding the guy who stood up and pointed at the mistake the moral teacher made, not everyone agreed to what he thought was appropriate. Being able to speak up all the time comes with a price as well.
Oh okay. i thought they were doing in while the teacher's teaching. u're right, it was wrong to confiscate. and regarding that guy who stood up, i think he did the right thing.. its just not accepted here in an asian country. yet. perhaps in the future, its gonna be more liberal. though highly unlikely.
but yes, speaking up comes with a price. the question is, where is the balance? how do u decide?
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